What are the essential qualities of a great relationship? Scientists and academics have spent entire careers investigating the nature of relationships, dating, and marriage, yet their findings are inaccessible to ordinary people, hidden in obscure journals read only by other academics. Now the bestselling author of The 100 Simple Secrets of Happy People and The 100 Simple Secrets of Successful People has collected the most current and significant data from more than a thousand studies on relationships, and spells out the key findings in plain English.

Introduction

1. The Mundane Is Heroic

2. See Possibilities Where Others See Obstacles

3. Set Rules for Conflict

4. Anyone Can Find a Happy Relationship

5. It's Not How Hard You Try

6. You Have Nothing to Envy

7. Attitude Triumphs over Outcome

8. Don't Be Bound by Tradition

9. The Past Is Not the Future

10. No One Wins the Comparison Game

11. See the Love Around You

12. Doing Nothing Is Rarely a Solution

13. You'll Forget the Disagreement but Remember the Disagreeing

14. Pursue What You Need Forever, Not What You Want Today

15. Seek Harmony in Your Life

16. The Relationship Test: Are You Lonely?

17. It's the Little Things That Matter the Most

18. A Relationship Requires Two Equals

19. Beware of Fairy Tales

20. Cultivate a Common Interest

21. Treat the Disease, Not the Symptom

22. There's No Point in Putting On a Show

23. You Make Your Own History

24. Maintain Your Sense of Control

25. Money Can't Buy Love, but It Can Buy Stress

26. There Are No Mind Readers

27. There's No Need to Hurry

28. Friends Speak from Experience--Their Own

29. Drink Lesss

30. Decide Whether You Want to Win or Be Happy

31. A Sense of Humor Helps

32. Think Beyond the Engagement

33. See the Friendship in Your Relationship

34. The Most Time Is Not the Best Time

35. Reduce TV Time

36. The World Will Intrude on Your Relationship

37. Gentlemen Prefer the Same Things Ladies Prefer

38. Love Is Blind but Life Isn't Always

39. Balance Depends on Which Way You Lean

40. A Relationship by Any Other Name Is Just

as Important

41. The Future Matters More than the Past

42. You Don't Have to See Eye to Eye on Everything

43. Be Open with Each Other

44. Accentuate the Positive in All Aspects of Your Life

45. It Helps to Be Friends

46. Foundations Are Created in the Beginning

47. Ambivalence Is a Negative

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