You’re happy．You’ve got a decent career(or one on the way)．Maybe you live with someone．But it’s not enouqh． You're not sure what’s missinq．thouqh；reaI feeIing，more sex?Love?Not with anyone obvious of Course，Ilke your partner or the colleague who’s always Iiked you，but with that out-of-reach someone you’ve secretly always wanted. Or the surprise candidate；the friend you hadn’t looked at that way before．Or a close friend’s boyfriend，or your qirlfriend’s best mate…

"The state of sexual bondage is，accordingly，far more freq uent and more intense in women than in men．though it is true it occurs in the latter more often nowadays than it did in ancient times…Many strange marriages and not a few tragic events——even some with far-reaching consequences——seem to owe their explanation to this origin．’--Sigmund Freud，‘Contributions to the Psychology of Love’(1918)